The Writing Of Rebecca Bones

I need you to understand something about me
and honestly,

about most people who are emotionally present.
Consistency isn’t extra.
It’s the foundation.
Not in a performative way.
Not in a “text me every hour” way.
But in a way that lets me feel like
I’m not constantly recalibrating where I stand with you.

Because when you’re warm one day
and distant the next—
it doesn’t create mystery.
It creates instability.

And I’ve already lived through enough inconsistency
to know what that does to a person over time.

I’m not asking for constant attention.
I’m asking for intention.
To feel considered
without having to question it.
To feel chosen
without having to decode it.

Because the moment I start wondering
if you still like me—
if I’m still on your mind—
something has already shifted.
Not loudly.
But enough.

Attraction isn’t built on looks alone.
It’s built on presence.
It’s how you respond
when I show you something real.
It’s how steady you are
when things are simple,
not just when they’re exciting.
It’s the way I don’t have to ask
to feel secure.

Because I don’t want to chase clarity.
I don’t want to negotiate for consistency.
I don’t want to feel like
I’m filling in emotional gaps
you keep leaving behind.

And when communication starts to feel like effort for you,
it becomes distance for me.

I stop reaching out.
I stop opening up.
I stop showing you the parts of me
that were once easy to give.

Not out of spite—
but because something in me
recognizes
when I’m no longer being met.

So understand this clearly:
Consistency doesn’t make things boring.
It makes them safe enough to grow.

And if I don’t feel that—
I won’t keep staying
to keep wondering why.